Long Lost Family

I have a grave concern about the safety of Davina behind the wheel of a car. She is continually looking to the camera over to her left thus taking her eyes of the road. Not for a quick glance either by the way. Surely in this day of fast moving technology they could provide her with a camera to sit on the dash in front of her.

well you then see her  pulling up and getting out of the car and going to the front door.

Thats just plain stupid .lol.

I watch this, while I do the ironing

I like a good wallow, especially if it's a Happy Ending. I notice that they don't all have a close relationship afterwards, though, only some of them. Still, at least most of them get what in the USA they call "closure" .

Did anyone watch last night. It was the first time they used DNA Investigators to try and locate the families of foundlings. Very clever stuff. Most of the ones they looked into found brothers and sisters and sorry tales. A few discovered that they weren't the eldest or the youngest which was a shock for them, none of their siblings and half siblings had any idea that they had a brother or sister that had been abandoned. I am sure they will do more of this as after years of searching these people finally got to piece something of their backgrounds together.

They said they were continuing to look into the other people's cases. It was uncanny how they had almost all thought that their mother would be a very young desperate person who had kept the pregnancy secret. In all the cases last night the mothers had managed to conceal their pregnancies but in most of them the abandoned child was not the first child.

I wonder if the worry about being found to be having another illegitimate baby by another father might have been the tipping point e.g. social services in those days weren't keen on women that constantly had children to different men and they would accept that a grandparent was more or less bringing up the other children but to keep on having them might have meant potential loss of the older children. There was an interesting story where the woman found out she had four older half-siblings and four younger half-siblings and she had been born in the middle, presumably the result of an affair - I think that was the story although I must admist I went to make a cuppa at that point, but there were definitely 8 half siblings born to the same mother and father and then her slotted somewhere in the list, obviously only the father of the other half-siblings was her father and presumably his wife knew nothing about it.

In one story the woman had concealed it from her mother and her two older children, one of whom was 10 and it is surmised that once in labour she sneaked out of the house onto the fields at night and then left the baby in the doorway of some flats, remarkably she did exactly the same thing 18 months later and abandoned another child, then 10 years after that she got married and had another child.

It was sad for the young man that although they had found his mother she still didn't feel able to meet him. He was born in 1996 so I guess she may be married now with other children and can't face having to bring this all up. They did say they would try to maintain contact with her and see if she felt able to meet him off camera. She may only be in her late 30s early 40s and perhaps the idea of telling her parents who may still be alive or her partner and children is just too much.

I was dreading it actually, because at some point along the line they will undoubtedly come across some poor woman that was abused, perhaps by a family member. I am sure the stories behind women abandoning their new born babies must nearly always be quite tragic tales of women who are out of control, being abused, being threatened or too young or living very precarious lives on the edge. There may have been criminal activity or runaway children. I think these tales will be quite harrowing and I imagine they have counsellors for the people involved to talk to.